Some revelations : Never to dissipate anger on someone/something. This thought triggered off when I heard about a movie called "Anger management" starring Adam sandler. It is quite natural for a man to react in anger. At that moment mind will be oscillating between tons of thoughts and it will be a typical chaotic environment. Any chaos will result in an outburst. Going by the cause and effect theory, the cause of the outburst ( I would rather term it as emotional outburst ) would lead into an undesirable effect which leads to further complications. After sometime ( this could be a few minutes, hours, days or even months) the anger subsides and then the individual starts thinking about the cause - emotional outburst and the effect and the further complications. Since the efffect is undesrable, the individual cannot live with the effect and he/she tries to alleviate the effect of anger by various means. So what is the outcome of sprewing anger ( as one of my friends terms it ) on someone. It will only lead to a state of regret - "oh I should'nt have done this'. So should we avoid anger ? I dont have an answer. In my view we should'nt. I have tried to avoid anger and always I have failed. At some point in time .. anger takes over and I end up dissipating it on people in some form or the other. I feel instead of avoiding if I accept anger and just be quiet .. things will be fine. Simple analogy - think about the effect ( based on the past experiences ) and understand the fact that 'by getting angry things wont change for your benefit or good, it will rather worsen". But I really dont know of a means of accepting anger. Last night I was angry with my friend and I tried to get into an acceptance mode and it was not at all working. The mobile phone was lying in front of me and my mind was racing and telling 'pick up the fone type in the sms or call up and blast the other person' and somehow I didnt want to do it.. so I went and started watching 'Tom and Jerry' :) until I could sleep. So I could not find a means of accepting anger .. I just diverted my mind to something more relaxing and got away with it. I need to find an answer for this.. an interesting quote to end ....

"The difference between courage and stupidity is the outcome"